Wanted: A compliant female with her head screwed on


“if she is willing to screw you, like you or date you -He can’t handle the truth and question’s why- so is She crazy or is He just being a dickhead for calling her crazy ( for seeing something in him -he is obviously having a hard time coming to terms with ?”

DAISY WILLOWS

SOMETHING TO LISTEN TO WHILE YOU READ

When like me, you are a second generation-er of hooking up with men that tend to leave me -wanting more  love.

I  have always thought that more love  is more unkindness , more abuse, more words on how crazy I am am.

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AIN’T THAT DEAD ROMANTIC. HE WROTE A SONG ABOUT ME! 

I am working on a new script- themes that crop up are Betrayal -Love – just to name two.

Solid foundations – a tent is not a good one. A stone house is probably a better choice of material.

I then find the first man who treats me as his queen.

  • Honours me

  • respects me

  • loves me

  • accepts me

  • empowers me

  • Dominates me ( when I let him 😉 ) 

I  can’t get my head around it.

Slowly,I am starting to.

I mean ,I married the man who treats me so different from all the others.

 I wonder if he is normal!

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HOLD UP! WE ARE MARRIED NOW. WHEN YOU GONNA GET MEAN?

When is he going to start treating me in a way that I have been conditioned to respond to?

Why is it that  even now, a part of me is sad that  I don’t get the respect from those who have never shown me any respect?

All Genders are included in this  question.

Take. Take .Take.

I Give Give give.

I don’t know if this a guy thing but it seems like ‘crazy’ is the buzzword to try and put a woman in her place -if she expresses feelings and does things that any “normal” person would do if that person was in her shoes.

I read this  10 NOT-SO-CRAZY REASONS  WHY MEN CALL WOMEN CRAZY

Here are the ones that actually helped me see  myself as a person. So, here is a BIG

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 to  those( not all ) men who think throwing out the crazy word to try and cop out or put me  or any one of my sisters in my/ her place.

 She’s so emotional! F-ing psycho!

If I cry often or during difficult conversations, it doesn’t mean that I’m a crazy emotional mess, it means that I am a human being with emotions that I have invested into that particular conversation. Crying isn’t a sign of weakness, craziness, or hormonal imbalances… so please in God’s name do not ask me if I’m getting my period!

I can so relate to this. If I have invested more of my emotional energy into a friendship , relationship, acquaintance ship, career even, and I get upset when I have fulfilled my purpose to an individual and not got what I was expecting. What does a person expect? If I don’t cry when we are having a difficult conversation. I may be  trying to take in what has been said and let my heart catch up with my mind.

We all internalise and externalise our shit in different ways. One guy I gave my body  and mind too, in the hope of gaining his friendship,made out like I was off my fucking head because I asked for certain drugs to block the pain and guilt of what I had done ,after his ‘I have just fucked you. Here is why it can’t work’speech.

“If  you can’t chill out with Valium then you are seriously fucked up.” said He.

This was said as a follow up to his

” I  only smoke weed day in and day out and have Ketamine/MDMA  every couple of weeks or so.”

Heads up this guy has serious Addiction and relationship issues himself.

“I don’t really drink anymore” – I look around the house- it  is a tip , empty alcohol cans ,bottles and remnants of ‘a party I had two days ago’, said He.

 

DOUBLE STANDARDS ALERT .

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She flipped out when I left my dishes in the sink…she’s nuts!

If I get angry at you for feeling taken advantage of, it doesn’t mean I’m uptight and crazy, it means that sometimes I don’t want to be treated like an indentured servant or a sex slave. You’ve had a long day? So have I, and looking cute or being sexy while cleaning up your mess isn’t exactly on the top of my priority list. Anger is fine for men, yet when women express it, we are donned crazy.

This one doesn’t just have to be about dishes. It does seem  true that  Anger in men is fine, encouraged even. I have been an instigator of this myself.

“MAN UP” says I.

 A woman gets Angry and lashes out !

Why is that crazy or anything less validating than a man expressing his emotions?

Some Men just don’t understand women at all.

It is easy to run away and point a finger and say ‘it is her- me I have my shit together. PLEASE LOOK AT YOUR FUCKING LIFE

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She’s left me like 10 messages demanding that I call her back!! She’s not understanding the brush off!!

If I continue to call or text after no response from you, It doesn’t make me crazy for not getting the “hint”, it makes you a child who refuses to take accountability or responsibility for your feelings/lack of feelings. I know you don’t want to talk to me. I deserve to have that conversation even if it’s difficult for you. And at this point I’m desperately hoping you pick up the phone just so I can hear the terror in your voice. What exactly are you afraid of? Honesty? Grow up!

This is one, when I read it – A light switched on for me . Yes, I may have sent ineligible texts, nursing my heart with benzos and alcohol at  the time, decided it was a great idea to text a person who I needed answers from. When I was picking up the pieces.It  was a hard for me to be objective about the texting. It wasn’t a side I like to see in me. I looked pathetic.

Until I read the above. I think me wanting answers is not unfair and this is when I finally realised just   who I had invested so much time into –

Some  Boys think life is a game.

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LOOK AT ME . I’M LEVELLING UP! 

 Men know when it’s time to get  honest and talk without their dicks.

You’re a crazy bitch but ya F—- so good I’m on top of it!

If I enjoy sex and I know what I like it doesn’t make me a crazy slut, or just plain crazy. An important part of being a woman is knowing your body, knowing your limits, and not being afraid to ask for what you want. People have kinks and preferences. Adages like “crazy in bed means crazy in the head” is just another way to make women feel badly for being exactly who they are. We are constantly told not to be ordinary, normal, or boring, so when we embrace our not so boring side we shouldn’t be feared and shamed. Grow up and embrace the sexual revolution boys! A real woman should be confident in bed, no matter what her preferences.

Yeah, what I have to add to this as a woman is,a  I grow as a woman , sexually gaining confidence in myself, not needing alcohol or drugs to fuck.

Men rarely make any apologies for wanting to fuck me. When I show I can take control and say this is what I want and no I don’t like to be treated mean.

Some  guy’s seem to  love that, until………………..

they  cum.

Then, it feels like if he didn’t make his bed the first time – he sure as hell is not going to start now.

So he starts back pedalling. His spine goes as limp as his most erect penis .

That is a bit cruel. Maybe I indulge a man’s ego because I don’t want to say.

“I can’t feel a thing. Are you actually in yet?”

Maybe, I have had a child and slept with many or a few  dudes or maybe I am just used to bigger cocks.

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  STOP THE SLUT SHAMING!

She says she’s in love with me…she must be crazy!

Lastly, If I tell you that I love you chances are I do…or at least I think I do. Falling in love with someone is difficult. Admitting to it, is even more difficult. Don’t belittle my feelings. Don’t give me reasons not to love you. And don’t, by any means, stick around if the feelings aren’t mutual. I love you..there I said it…so either be a man and dive into this thing with me, or be a man and walk away. And remember, if after you’ve made your choice, (to stay and love me or to walk away) I am a crying mess, I’m not crazy. I’m just human. 

Even if this is said by a drunk women texting. She may not love you – she may  just have ” complicated” feelings for you.  She may say she hates you in the next text.

Rejection sucks. Ever been there?

The biggest cop out is ‘it is not going to work but of course we can be friends’   two days later -unfriended with no answers.

Finally, be fucking specific.  CRAZY is such an umbrella term.

She’s constantly drunk. ( daisy adds when she is around him)

“She got hammered last night and was completely crazy.”

Do you mean to say, “She has an issue with alcohol abuse?”

That’s very different from being crazy.

If she’s constantly drinking that much and losing her sh*t, you might have some more serious problems to deal with other than her “craziness.”

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OOPS SORRY….. I DON’T KNOW WHAT CAME OVER ME. 

I tend to write what I know. I already have the dramatised scenes but I like to get more creative and make it original,  when I put pen to paper and get my draft down, then  the editing process starts. Characters grow the more I write,what they say to each other, the more the plot develops,.

I started reading these articles because I am looking for motives for who at this present is -the Antagonist – this could change.

I was so fixed on the Antagonists good qualities and the Protagonists bad qualities. I needed to find balance.

Characters and  real people all have light and dark in them. No person is wholly good or wholly bad.

 

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38 thoughts on “Wanted: A compliant female with her head screwed on

  1. This is just brilliant! A thought provoking read and funny too in places. Fuck you in calligraphy, love that! It sounds like you’re not in a great place right now though emotionally, I am here if you need me, just a text or whatsapp away 🙂 xxxxx HUGS xx

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    • No I am okay… SMILEY FACE. I just have a bunch of ideas and shit in my head and just thought I would share it. I am alright hun. Up and down – like a horse on a merry go round- as long as the music doesn’t stop. I’m cool. Oh I had to moderate this comment. Weird cos I only use comment moderate for first time comments xxxx I know hun -same here. I text u this A.M. just can’t locate my ph at the mo. Im not very good with keeping my mobile in sight.

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    • Hi K.. Lovely to meet you. Jackie holds some great parties. I’m on my second coffee already. muchos caffeine needed. Will check you out soon. I usually check out new blogs and friends every week or so – please be patient. I like to spend my time getting a feel for a blog and be able to focus my full attention on what I am reading. Thanks for the follow. Catch up soon. 🙂 x

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      • NO worries. I only do 2 at a time… that way I can get to know the person(s)… i am headed for cup number 4… have coffee will travel… 🙂

        Rainy morning here.. and thank you for such a pleasant reply…

        Kind Regards and raising my mug to you – K

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      • I don’t know if you feel the same way but as my Blog grows. I want to pay attention and thank everyone and I do. It just takes a lot of time and effort – I don’t mind doing it because I come across some fantastic bloggers and love the vibe on WP. I’m slowly realising I can’t please everyone. I’m in the U.K. and you? – no rain – woohoo! cheers to a great day xx

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      • USA -Northeast… and yes, I feel the same way.. hence the 2 blogs at a time..which may take me 3+ days… :)…Connecting is very important.

        Enjoy your day… I promise not to send any rain your way!! though, mother nature seems to have a mind of her own…. 🙂

        Kind regards – k

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  2. Excellent post, as always. I can add one to it – “Did you take your meds?” It doesn’t matter what you’re saying or what you’re doing, they can justify anything and everything based on that. In their eyes the argument is over after that statement, therefore making the argument over for you. What would be the point of trying to continue?

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  3. wow way beyond carol toxic! remember the gilmour townshend all lover s are deranged and aint love strange. i have that love hate thing with tessy she finally went north. now i m doin the bussard however absurd!

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    • Love is strange and thinking you have feelings for a person can get complicated – ha ha! I like what Jim says – people are strange, when u a stranger, faces look ugly when you r alone, women seem wicked when ya unwanted -streets are uneven when ya down. – Love/ hate – different sides of the same coin. I live in the North – not in USA but North is North right? Emotions – love/lust/ anger/ whatever get a lot of people doing the bussard 🙂

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  4. In other words, nobody in the world is perfect. May I say, this blog is amazing and have you ever thought about writing a book about this? You should, I felt like I was reading a book about 2 characters feeling or debating against what is wrong in this world with relationships.

    You should definitely write a book. Love it! Hi! Daisy. I’m back and I am blogging again. And I posted a new poem. 🙂

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    • Hi Stranger. I’m working on a new script of mine. I have read a couple of your poems. So many books to read. I’ve finally got confirmation that I am to start my MA in Creative Writing in Oct. So got a lot on my mind and a lot to do and read. You have been a busy bee. I super proud and happy for you and your book. My husband laughed at the synopsis bit where you advice readers to caution their patience:
      ‘these poems can make you see things,resulting in weird traumatic awe. Visions itching,neurons spasm, am I forgetting soemthing else? Oh! Yes, better CGI for the imagination itself’
      Glad you are back to blogging. Missed you Charlie. 🙂 I’m going offline for a bit. Life duties – ha ha! I will check out your poem before I log off 🙂 Love to you and your partner 🙂

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      • Sorry for being absent. 🙂 Your working on a script? awesome! Is this a book? or a movie? Just curious. 🙂

        MA for creative writing…that is super awesome! I’m very and truly proud of you Daisy.

        hahaha!!! I’m happy your husband got a kick out of those lines. 🙂

        Life is wonderful and peaceful. 🙂

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      • I love the theatre. I’m into experimental theatre. Theatre of the absurd and surrealism, that kind of thing. It is good to have u back. Yeah. I can’t believe it about my ma. I am kind of shit ting myself but suppose that is a good thing to feel. Means it’s worth doing 😆😕😆😆😕😆😆😨😨

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  5. Daisy, do you remember wayyyyy back when we first met, i was telling you about this book that was about the different way girls are educated about sex versus boys? Like they aren’t told they should expect pleasure or equality in matters of sex? Its only later in the game that we figure it out IF we figure it out. Anyway, the book is called “Girls and Sex” and the author is Peggy Orenstein. She’s done an interview in Salon magazine and was interviewed for National Public Radio’s “Fresh Air” on March 29th of this year. It’s really good information. Anyway, excellent post, my friend!

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    • Gosh . Yes , that was waaaaaaaaaay back but it does ring a bell. Defo going to chase up the interview first. Thanks. I just can’t believe how much shit women take from Men. Then I find someone who above all wants to make me happy. We try all sorts of stuff. Sometimes I ask ‘What do u get out of this?’ My husband notices subtle things like a change in my breathing, eye contact, me relaxing, me moving or not moving and he loves finding out what pleasures me. He says I know his body very well. ha ha. I guess it is so easy for me to focus on performing for another that I forget about my needs. To the point where an orgasm is something I wonder if it actually exists for a me. It is a great feeling to have someone willing to give to me and trust he won’t be offended if it takes time to figure out what really works or doesn’t …

      Thanks for reading, Meg x

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      • Indeed I have. We have. He brings out the best in me. He has seen the worst of me and vice versa. I trust him 100% and I will never and have never lied to him when I have fucked up 🙂 I invest a lot more time in to the winners in my life. The losers are not losers but great inspiration for characters and they can go into my writing and scripts bwhahhaha – my rules – mwahahahaaaaaa 😉 xx I have actually been tempted to ask certain people for interviews to create a 3 dimensional character- I don’t think certain people would appreciate it but the thought has crossed my mind. Am I alone in this?

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