Yeah, I’m obviously not going ignore that it is WORLD SUICIDE PREVENTION DAY -especially considering the work and training I have been doing this week, around Mental Health Recovery embracing the 5 key concepts to the
HOPE-People who experience mental health difficulties get well, stay well and go on to meet their life dreams and goals.
SELF-RESPONSIBILITY– It’s up to you, with the assistance of others, to take action and do what needs to be done to keep yourself well.
EDUCATION-Learning all you can about what you are experiencing so you can make good decisions about all aspects of you life.
SELF-ADVOCACY-Effectively reaching out to others so that you can get what it is that you need, want and deserve to support your wellness and recovery.
SUPPORT – While working toward your wellness is up to you, receiving support from others, and giving support to others will help you feel better and enhance the quality of your life.
I’ve been so inspired, comforted, shocked and angered by the stories I have heard this week. Every one of us has been through shit- the same clinical diagnoses come up again and again, being drugged, feeling ashamed, stigmatized.
Being called crazy for acting in a way where obviously a person’s mental health is not good for whatever reasons .
Still, we live in this society. With this Victorian -lock them away, throw away the key mentality.
In my life, I have met people from all walks of life, ethnicities,religion, job roles/class .
I knew a physiatrist, (I have known many) who was not mine but a fellow inpatient,just like me. No one will know who I am on about. It was many years ago and nobody who knows me today and who I connect with today will know this person.
The thing with suicide – it can be intentional and unintentional – a quick act or an act that goes on for years until eventually, Grim reaper does come to collect .
Usually, there are years of pain and suffering and wearing the ‘I am ‘normal’ mask, not like – them – the “crazy” -unwell people, before someone does intentionally/unintentionally ends their life .
“I only drink 1/2/3 glasses of alcohol, a spliff, a night/at weekends to calm me down/get a buzz .”
I’ve heard that a lot.
Why does a person need this kind of outlet and coping mechanism to chill or escape from reality?
I include myself in this.
Life is stressful.
We are not helping our mates, colleagues, family,friends and community by pretending this is one of the healthy ways to cope.
“I only inject heroin or smoke crack ,snort coke/Ket on weekends” It’s recreational use.”
I hear that too . These very words have come out my mouth over the years.
“I can’t cope with life at all and need to take antidepressants/ mood stabilisers/ drink/smoke/inject/starve/comfort eat to cope and deal with the stresses of life”
I can hear the crowd heckling and tsking already.
That person has gone too far.
“All in moderation.” I hear some people say.
Have you actually looked at what the ( ahem..) governments guidelines for how much alcohol you are actually “advised” ( doesn’t mean you should) to drink or the number of painkillers you should take and when you should take them ?
(if that is your “thing”)
Did you go out and buy a government ,custom made, wine, beer glass or whatever to make sure you are getting the correct dose?
If you look at your drinking glasses compared to what the size of the glass that is advised (if you insist on drinking something that happens to be legal), I think you may have gone over the limit.
In this context, The moderation theory is a fucking myth, in my opinion.
Food is legal – people get addicted to it/not eating it.
So is Sex. So is stealing – that is illegal, of course.
Why are we self-medicating ourselves in this way?
Ask yourself. Don’t point a finger at Bob or Tina next door who are total mad heads, crazy,raging druggies or whatever,who are always having a bust up.
Look at your own life. The own things you use to keep you well, that keep you able to make it to work the next day or not.
Keep you ticking over just nicely enough to cope with Lifes/ people’s unrealistic expectations of you.
Just a thought.
Do or don’t. I am not here to judge. I’m merely expressing my thoughts. I’m thinking/ musing– being human.
I know I come acrosss as confrontational in this post and maybe I am.
Hell, yes I am.
I’m pissed off at how society decides who is fit and who is a misfit.
There are so many other ways to chill, be happy , live.
Why do we (I include myself in we) choose ways that are not actually healthy?
Why do we alter the wiring in our brain? Numb our feelings?
What is wrong with feeling and expressing so-called “weak” ” negative” feelings?
Take a look at your friend, a stranger in the street/ family member/ the person who calls you crazy.
It’s not hard to figure it out.
Did you know that a person with a label of schizophrenia is more likely to kill him/herself before harming another?
Yes, self-medicating – drinking ,taking drugs to cope increases the chances of a person with a diagnosed mental illness becoming violent.
Think of christmas, bank holidays, seasonal drinkers who congregate in civiliced places to drink or even the illegal druk takers who congregate wherever to imbibe whatever substance.
I’ve been to these pubs/clubs/houses/parks/festivals/doss houses sober and seen what “normal” looks like.
How many of those people do you know ?
Do you know their back ground , mind state?
Really, How well do you know them?
Have you seen what what alcohal and drugs can do to a person who is a “normal” member of society?
“It was the alcohol , the prick who looked at me differently, the fucking coach of whatever sports team, that German/English/ French prick.”
What you put into your body will change how you act/perceive things and that is my point.
If I drink alcohal – when I have and done so, I tend to binge drink and I can “lose” it.
One last thing to think about, if you wish.
If I asked you to visually describe and give traits of a person who you think is likely to think about or actually take their own life,what does that person look like?
Here is a Fact: or about as accurate as a statistic can tell you.
The person most likely to attempt/take their own life,according to the statistic website I chose to use,
age 30- 64
method: firearm, strangulation, suffocation and poisoning
Previous Attempts to self-harm.
This is my husband.
I’m using him as an example with his permission, of course. 😀
Five years ago, he did fit into most of the criteria for being the person who is more likely attempt/commit suicide.
He thought about ending his life when he was bullied, in his early teens, in the neighbourhood, he grew up in.
My husband has ended up in A&E due to an injury he acquired intoxicated. In his case,skateboarding accident.
Today,he is not suicidal nor does he own a firearm( it is illegal to in the U.K.) He has not drunk alcohol in 5 years, doesn’t smoke or use drugs – he has never even smoked a cigarette.
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“Emotional arrears were well over due. Today I got full payment and my soul is filled with warmth and love and a lightness that helps me move on. Thank you!”
It is very easy to point fingers and say
“oh that person is the one with all the issues. That person is insane”
Without taking a step out of your own mind and get another perspective.
When someone says I am crazy.
I know I have mental health issues but sometimes things that happen in life and how I react, is not just a symptom of my mental health issues.
I have emotions.
I have my own thoughts and feelings and my own perspective.
I did some “crazy” things of late. I am not proud of them and I have been emotionally destroyed and angry.
All I got was silence.
I was made out to be the person with all the issues. It got to the point where I thought
Yeah , this person is right. I am crazy.
Never mind, everything I have done and achieved in the past 6 years to get to who I am today.
I think people really need to be careful about flippant words and how they use them.
I started to believe I was what this person said. I thought I couldn’t take care of my daughter or be a normal functioning human being again.
Everything I am still working towards , I nearly threw in towel, because I allowed one person to get to me.
One small -minded perspective to get to me.
I can cause mayhem on my own but in this situation it took two to create an exploding time bomb.
My partner stood up for me. I finally feel vindicated and heard.
Ironically, he feels better too.
Sometimes, we need to take on another person’s perspective to get a clear picture of what is really going on.
The only way to do that is clear communication.
Texts and emails can be misinterpreted, especially when you are responding to emotion which causes hurt.
I have a remarkable man in my life. He took me outside ,into the sunshine today and said:
“Let’s bask in the light a little longer because you deserve to be in the light and be seen. I will always support you, protect you and be your champion. I understand more now.”
Yup, I have a real man. One in a million.
HERE HE IS
The only way to break down Stigma against mental illness is to communicate and not be silenced into shame.
I have so much purpose in my life but I wasn’t getting answers.
Now, I have my answers.
I feel my point of view has been slotted in to this persons life for however brief.
My heart is lifted.
I don’t feel ashamed anymore.
My heart isn’t breaking.
I don’t need social services to look after my daughter.
I don’t need to check into a clinic.
I am entitled to be happy and to move on.
Who doesn’t have mental health?
We all deal with stress and life issues and dips in our health in a variety of ways. Some are not always good.
Drinking for 2 days is probably not a great way to deal with a problem ,because it heightens emotions and it can have a bad interaction with medication, and that mix brings out the worst in many.
Some people smoke weed to deal with their issues others pop a Valium. Some do other things.
Who is to say who is right or wrong?
I know how to get back on track – what I know to be the right way for me.
I am back on track.
Our marriage is stronger and we closer because of this experience.
I always say, honesty is the best way to deal with people and situations.
Tell it like it is , if you build up a wall , well you lose out.
I can see the light again.
I can move on .
I won’t look back.
Heart ache and insults suck but I’ve learnt by sticking to my guns and being persistent I will find peace –
It’s a new day -well it is actually the end of a day, but I know who I am and what it has taken me, to get to the person I am today.
I fuck up .
My heart is lifted.
I can see the silver lining.
I have renewed hope.
I have my confidence back.
I am not my mental illness. I am not a psycho or crazy.
If I use shitty coping mechanisms, then yeah! my brain will flip out.
Study the brain and educate yourself.
Especially,if you don’t know what synapses and neurotransmitters and dopamine and serotonin are and what function and part they play in your brain, along with what environment and genes and, continual new neural structure pathways being made in the brain, do.
Pinkie Promise! SHOUT OUTS TO FOLLOW TOMORROW.
Can’t wait to check out all your lovely Blogs
The love just continues to grow.
Beautiful flowers and manly trees everywhere. I appreciate all of you, in all your natural beauty.
Oh and one more thing before I hit club duvet -zzzzzzzzzzzzzzz – check out what arrived in zee post today
CHARLIE ZERO POET – Signed by the man himself.
Awesome poet. Can’t wait to get reading.
Music is a positive way for me to get my mind in better mental health.
So, if someone calls you crazy or a psycho – get a second opinion.
A third even.
Don’t rely on the people who don’t even have a fucking clue who you are or even the ones who think they do.
OR MAYBE I AM NOT CRAZY?
REMEMBER IT IS ALL ABOUT PERSPECTIVE.
Daisy learns a life lesson 🙂
We all have to start somewhere to get to somewhere else right?
A year of volunteering and training done so far and all of the effort has been 100% worth it.
So, today I am very proud to say I successfully helped to put together a Mental health awareness workshop and co -facilitate it.
I felt so at home. I felt the most comfortable I have ever been. I’ve helped out with a few workshops before but this was like my mini baby step to doing something I didn’t think I could do.
‘Be your greatest cheerleader – nobody else is likely too.’
Upon reflection I realised we still have a long way to go to reduce and breakdown Stigma against Mental health issues in our community and society.
I stick by my rule of always being authentic. I have nothing to hide. The more I shared, the more I felt I connected with other people.
People opened up and it was awesome to observe this.
We all have mental health and I discovered a lot of people have similar issues. We deal with them in different ways and some can have more extreme ways of coping than others or vice versa.
I’m on a roll here . ha ha
I know what you are thinking. Just let me have this moment? Please!
United, we can break down the stigma attached to mental health and address the issue properly.
We all have a mind and a body -so no one- unless a person defines themselves as an actual (not metaphorical) robot- is susceptible to having Positive mental health and Negative mental health over the course of a life time.
Why do we feel ashamed to be labelled? We quite happily wear labels like Prada , Gucci, Matalan , doctor , chef , cleaner, politician ?
I don’t have any shame in what I have done or what I have been through. I have so much respect for the people I meet here and in the real world.
I am truly on a mission.
Perfection is unattainable!
We need to leave that with the Romans.
Look to the future .
Even better pause and take time to enjoy the moment. Look around you and be happy with what you have.
Don’t read beauty magazines or buy into the celeb media market.
Pick up a book and expand your mind. Take pictures. Paint, draw, act. Get creative.
I have recently found out that a lot of people Photoshop ( I mean really Photoshop) their social media images.
No wonder I don’t recognise people when I am out and about in the big wide world.
I am kind of joking . 😀
I do day dream when I am out and about.
I always have a million things going on in my head.
Not everyone does this Photoshop thing but to know that people do, just made my jaw drop.
So I am going to stick with being real. It seems to be working.
I can smile at strangers in the street and they smile back.
We are all human.
We need food, exercise ,sleep, a toilet……. Can you see where I am going with this?
That’s it for now.
I did it.
We did it.
Totally motivated and ready to break down stigma.
My mantra is:
‘I am successful at whatever I do.’
no matter if that means getting out of bed or getting my degree.
Another week has passed and I haven’t been posting or reading as much of your Blogs as I have wanted to .
I kind of screwed up. I decided just over a month ago that I didn’t have Bipolar and that I didn’t need to take certain medication.
This past month has been a living hell. I reached breaking point yesterday. I thought I was losing my mind.
The reason why I am making this public is because I am so passionate about reducing the Stigma surrounding Mental Health issues.
I did something so stupid but instead of letting my mental health get to a point , where I was increasing the risk that I would get worse, and I would probably end up doing something epically silly. I reached out.
I’m back! . I know what keeps me well. Blogging is one of my coping tools..
My volunteering is another.
Yesterday I thought I blew it.
I was a mess.
I forced myself to face my fears and I got through it.
Today we have a plan for the Depression and Anxiety workshop ,for Thursday.
I do have good ideas and stuff to bring to make this workshop work.
It is okay to screw up but you have to reach out too.
Do it as soon as possible. All my Bipolar symptoms started coming back.
My Anorexia triggers came back.
I haven’t come this far to go back to living in a mental hospital again. I have too much to gain and far too much to lose.
Today is a new day. I have a chance to start over.
I am petrified about doing the workshop but I know once I am there – that is my one place I will feel comfortable.
It’s the same here on Word Press. I convinced myself that because I had no energy and that my mind couldn’t take in information when I was reading other peoples Blogs , I would lose people.
I can’t just pretend to read a post and like. That has never been an option for me. I don’t do things in halves.
I didn’t lose anybody. In fact quite the opposite. I have gained new friends – The Daisy in the willows flower community grows.
I am not going to question why .
I can only say thank you and count my blessings.
I work hard to over come my fears and demons. I have a lot of support and you – all of you -don’t know how much your comments have helped me. You will never know.
Let me re phrase that you are
Pictures can be misleading…..
But I am back and I am pushing forward and that is what counts. I got through yesterday. I am getting through today.
So I guess it is time to explore all the new Blogs who have come into my path and give you all a MASSIVE SHOUT OUT for taking a chance on me.
Keep pushing forward. I swear your future self will be thankful . I know what keeps me well and what doesn’t..
Cream of the Planet-Sensual, Thoughtful, and Very Naughty A man who loves women. What is not to love ? 😀
Timkeen40’s Blog-Fiction and other stories by Tim Keen -Check out Tim’s book on Amazon AFTER HOURS- A COLLECTION OF SHORT STORIES BY TIM KEEN
The Teacup Library Cup of tea and an adventure anyone – A tea drinking ,Romantic ..
Just A Lady With A Blog – Genevieve has so much going on on her Blog. It’s a fun place to be. love this quote of hers. She has an epic attitude to Life.
You know when your a younger you and people will say “You can do anything you want if you believe in yourself and follow your heart.” Something along those lines. Well I interpreted that as “I can do anything and EVERYTHING ever!
ARNE’S COMFY COUCH CURRENT TOPICS – this is one Blog that is going to blow your mind.
Life to me is learning, accepting,trying, failing and trying again. Pushing through the struggles and allowing self to be a little dark, but not TOO dark
The Brighton Meow Cats Protection Brighton and District blog I am a Crazy cat lover. Support these incredible people
KIMBERLY STARR -This lady has my attention. She believes laughter can cure, Good vibes, inner Strength, coffee and sunshine! I’m loving it.
minibit of storytime – Mini ( not the mouse but the writer)
Finding merle- the time is now -eat the chocolate – Karen is amazing. She is full of positivity . I tend to run to Blogs like hers.
Mugilan Raju-Prime my subconscious, one hint at a time – A man with a lot of charisma and it shows in his Blogging
MAURAWORDPRESSBLOG – not much to see here yet. A start is great. Maura get Blogging. I want to know you 🙂
Zen and the Art of Everyday Living– a great Blog to learn to live in the moment. We all need to slow down and smell the flowers and become aware of our presence in reality.
living in stigma I have been following this lady’s Blog for many months. Love her blog and she kind of likes mine too now. What a compliment xxxx
Tarnished Soul Searching for Peace in a Tumultuous World– a Man trying to find a meaningful life. He is a bit like me. Totally wears his heart on his sleeve.
mommyrosebuds Asahela a 25 year old Mum . She had her child when she was 16 but she has such sass and attitude and personality. She can show us all how to live and be a great parent. She has an epic community going on too.
Coloring Outside the Lines traveling to little places, inside and outside of mind – the title alone of this Blog -resonates. Mark is a lover of Flash Fiction – something I am dying to do. Well travelled too.
Sweta Ojha A Personified Narrative : Defying Reality. Sketching Imageries. -Sweta’s Blog is ice candy crack. A journalist and a published novelist of a book THE LAST JOURNAL
Ever wondered what’s a personified version of the thin line that exists between imagination and reality?
jstnluu Justin. -A law degree student who happens to be crazy about fashion and all things creative. Justin is a deep thinker. He has a lot of interests and a curious mind.
ELLENBEST24 words and scribble. A writer…
My name is Ellen.
I am stronger than I seem; happier than I have ever been. I am a complex character who loves life. I Bathe in love, laughter and words. Words that I read and write, words that I swallow whole
BEYONDTHEHORIZON– another awesome Blogger who can’t make sense of the cruelty that people do to each other. Another deep thinker with a lot of soul and a lot to give.
The Self-Help Sucker Enlightenment by the Book -love the title. I seem to have found a bunch of thinkers/ philosophers this past week – well you found me and I love thinking outside the box. I am in good company. This dude reads all the self help books we can’t and tells us the best bits to take away with us. Awesome!
SPIRIT LEARNING never fade.
STUDY: THE UNIVERSE HIGHWAY
DEPARTMENT: SUCCESS WORLD HEREAFTER
Pretty Charms – Plenty of analyis,case studies and essays on mental health in a no jargony way
Shandra Eats Cook, Eat, Travel, and Be Merry!! It is all about the food! Food pawn alert!
SHELISHACAMPBELL has a poetry brain 🙂
518-SONGOFMYPEOPLE A town everyone hates, yet no one leaves… check it out. There is a lot of mystery surrounding this Blog. I have never come across one like it …
Bay art -BayArt with Science-based Practices for a Meaningful Life is the single destination for effective, evidence-based solutions for better emotional health and wellbeing in the 21st century. Let get your workbook today & join us LOVING THIS BLOG.
ClearDope-Success, Genius.. Becoming the best version of yourself. – Another awesome Blog about finding your purpose, self affirming and a great place to be to get into a great mind state.
Annas Art – FärgaregårdsAnna- OPEN MIND ART– To say Anna is talented is a slight under statement. I’m a huge fan of people who can draw and paint. I can’t. And she has a sense of humour too!
MY CHILD WITHIN- Healing from trauma Not as heavy going as the title- there is a lot of emphasis on Recovery and moving forwards in this Blog
I have started this website to share my personal story of recovery, healing and hope. I want to offer tips on how to cope with a special needs sibling and how to heal from narcissistic parental abuse. I also want to offer insight into how complicated the grieving and healing can be when recovering from chilhood abuse and neglect in the family. Mental health is very important to myself and others and people have to understand that it matters just as much as physical health.
MY ORDINARY LEGEND I CAN ONLY TELL YOU WHERE THE STORY STARTS AND TAKE YOU ALONG FOR THE RIDE Jessie was living in Germany for some time and started her thought journal when she went back home to the U.S.A. – She is pretty talented with what she can do when she has a camera in her hand
NOCTURNAL MOM -AN AMBIVERT SHARE-S THOUGHTS-A WORKING MOM’S LIFE- UPS,DOWNS AND ENDLESS LEARNING – Meg has been writing since she was 8 years old!
business with psychology I’m not to sure what is happening with this Blog yet but thank you for the follow all the same. Best of luck with developing your Blog 🙂
SHERRIEMIRANDA1- The wonderful world of writing Certainly has a sense of humour
SanoLovesWriters!!!!!!! Sano most definitely does!
JOURNEY TOWARD HEALING-MY JOURNEY THROUGH BPD AND DEPRESSION – Someone trying to make sense of her world
I dedicate this blog to everyone who shares one or both of these challenges. Or any mental health challenge for that matter. If someone manages to find their way here, and finds something valuable in my writing, or can relate to something, it will be worth it.
We might not always believe this, but there is hope. Like a lighthouse… It’s light can be seen shining during even the most turbulent of storms.
Have you heard?
I have now.
Now you need to know about this!
I’m super excited to share one of the most innovative communities there is for people with Mental health . The only way to stop discrimination is to get on board and use your voice and not be ashamed to have mental health issues.
WE ALL HAVE MENTAL HEALTH SO WE ALL NEED TO LOOK AFTER OURS.
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I’ve decided to get more involved and volunteer.
What does it mean to be a volunteer at #SickNotWeak? It means sharing a part of yourself to help others, it means starting conversations we didn’t have even twenty years ago, and it means making a commitment to change. There is no singular way to help an organization like ours – our volunteers have diverse skills sets, life experience, and quite often different diagnoses.
We welcome both sufferers and supporters on our team.Something everyone at #SickNotWeak has asked themselves: “If I am feeling broken, how can I fix anyone else?” Simply put, you can’t. Our job at #SickNotWeak is not to “fix” anyone. We are not doctors; we are friends. Even if we just co-exist as broken-but-brave pieces of ourselves, that is enough. Feeling a sense of camaraderie is enough. Telling just one person that you are sick, not weak, is enough. You are enough.
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Can you tell I am just a tad bit excited about this?